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8月23日

立志讲座笔记

 因为觉得最近比较懒散,暑假给惯的,呵呵,所以,今天泛泛的听了下余世维关于沟通和陈安之关于时间管理的讲座,并做了下笔记,觉得对我启发很大,贴出来,大家share一下:
 

第一讲、余世维沟通

一、沟通的三个词

1、沟通的基本问题是心态:三种沟通病态:自私、自我、自大

2、沟通的基本原理是关心:

1)注意别人的状况和难处

              2)注意别人的需求和不便

              3)注意别人的痛苦与问题

3、沟通的基本要求是主动

 

 

 

 

第二讲、陈安之时间管理

一、要做的事情的计划

自己要有总目标,长期大体的目标,和短期具体的目标(是从长期大体目标切割出来的)

把要做的事记下来,不然会忘掉

排优先顺序(优的先做或重点做)

设定完成期限

在纸上思考会比在脑中思考节省很多时间

阅读、或请教别人的经验会节省很多时间

把大计划分解成小计划,并想到比较细致,看需要面临些什么,具体要怎么做

要能预见未来会发生的状况或困难

要有计划B

目标可以随着情况进行修改

晚上要把第二天要做的事情列出来

一定要百分百按计划去做

马上行动,现在行动 do it now

越详细的计划越容易做到

所有事情第一次做就做到完美,一口气做好,不要想到要做第二次才能做好。

把事情做完再去做第二件事情

同一类的事情在一段时间做完,因为做同一类事会比较熟,效率高

打电话一次打完,不要分不同次打。

把重要的事情看成紧急的事情,不紧急的事情,不会有很强的动力去做

不允许有任何借口懈怠,不完成计划

把每个东西放在固定的位置,就不需要花太多的时间整理,很容易找到

看书的时候,书桌要干净,不要有会干扰你的东西。

经常检讨自己(行为、思想、计划等)

永不放弃,impossible is nothing

完成计划(做事情)要有强烈的动机、充分的理由(即强烈的信念)

过去(无论成功失败)不等于未来,不要去管过去

态度决定一切,技巧也同样重要

7月8日

高中同学打球

不知道会不会是最后一次了,之后,大家就要各奔东西了哦,
不管怎样,大家要保持联系哦。
 
金陵万岁,四班万岁!
7月2日

浙西——大学毕业旅行

毕业了,我们没参加毕业典礼,却来到了浙西,来弥补大学四年的枯燥时光。我们用我们的方式举行了毕业典礼,使得大学生活没有遗憾,完美无缺。
 
正如其名,穿越时空群中的朋友们,虽然毕业后各奔东西,但我们能穿越时空(这点要感谢在电信事业辛勤工作的人们,呵呵),永远都是好朋友。
 
Pic. 见空间相册
未压缩的Pic.见我的网易相册:http://photo.163.com/photos/guozhiyi_1985,进入后选择“浙西——大学毕业旅行”,密码:njupt
6月26日

高中同学回金陵中学的部分照片在相册中

金陵中学是南京最好的中学之一,始建于1888年,有着悠久的历史,培养出了许多优秀的人才
6月17日

大学同学爬山照片,有美女哦~

16号,大学的几个好朋友去爬了紫金山,吃了饭,K了歌,留下几张照片,在相册中,有美女阿!!!
 
进入后选:大学同学爬山
密码:njupt
 
有美女!!!
6月6日

今天穿袍子了^^

 
进入后选“学士服”,密码:njupt
 
去淘阿淘阿淘阿^^
6月3日

How to get a close friend,I need your advice!

下文第一部分摘自JGY's space,是她新发的贴(可以不看^^),第二部分是我跟的贴(要看的哦^^)。

请大家就 How to get a close friend 给我些建议^^

 

第一部分:

Saturday Blues

 
 
Out of blue, something called 'Saturday Blues' slowly descended from atop, and befell upon me. -- Hence day-mare began. Each Saturday, I would feel immensely tired, extremely stressed, and emotionally unstable, almost incontinent.
 
Being an individual conscious of her own behaviour and emotions, I didn't allow my investigation even one day of delay. But apparently all my research methods were all to no avail. I was tired yet happy during weekdays, I came home late and tried my best to gather the strength so as to go to work in the morning; the bear and me talked every evening; I meet up my friends for meals or meetings...The machine called human body seems to be running flawlessly well during the five days at work. And I see no reason why it insisted on a routine break-down every Saturday...
 
It feels really bad. I usually feel tired, but still, driven by the desire to see someone's face, or by the obligation of doing something as promised, I would drag myself out of my comfortable resting nest and start a whole day of orbiting. Then, all of a sudden, I would be swept by sudden tides of sadness and exhaustion, and tears would roll down my cheeks in an imperceptible, but almost interminable manner. This surprised my close ones, even frightened them. But how am I going to explain to them that I didn't intend to cry, not the least bit; that I couldn't figure out the source of that salty water myself; that it has nothing to do with them?
 
One of my friends attempted to explain to me that, during the weekdays, I lie, so as to convince myself that I am happy, hardworking, and fulfilled; while in fact, I might be tired, worried, and lonely. But I lied so well that even my mind believed that. --- Until the weekend arrives and the strong and deceiving mind is no longer capable of putting up excuses and showing illusions...I am finally forced to face my own weakness and sorrows. It sounds complicated, but after a deep ponder, I believe that at least half of this theory is true.
 
And that's when things took a U-turn and got better. After realizing my emotional ailment coming from my own mind, I would simply ignore this little trick played by it. If I am tempted to reject a plan of spending some time with the bear, I would take a deep breath, rest for a while, and let those thoughts of longingness for him emerge. After a careful auditing of my 'cheerfulness index' as well as my 'energy gauge', I would give that idea a second thought. --- In usual case, I would be happily spending some quality time instead of brooding in my room alone. If I am alone and seized by the languidness, I would allow myself a nap without the bound of an alarm-clock. And after a few hours, I would wake up afresh, all happy and recharged.
 
But still, I deeply appreciate the hug I received, at one sudden onset of my Saturday Blues. It's always good to feel safe and relaxed with some ones, with whom you don't need to hold back your laughter, mockery, and tears. To me, that's the best thing revealed by this unprecedented Saturday Blues.
 
 
 
 
第二部分
 
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    朋朋(郭致毅)
    1、old words:天将降大任于斯人也,必先苦其心志、劳其筋骨、饿其体肤
    2、according to your passage,friends "with whom you don't need to hold back your laughter, mockery, and tears" are important to everyone,besides me. You are so lucky that you have such kind of friends.
        I've a lot of friends, with whom I can play,but they are not people I can do the same thing like you. I am not good at communication, which is my most defect, and I think that is the most problem for me to get that kind of friends who are so important. I really don't know how to deal with it.
        Maybe it's due to the heavy works during the past 4 years, and due to that I always back home at Sundays, which is the very time for me to live with my friends. Maybe because I couldn't open my heart to my friends. I some times hold things in my heart instead of talk it with my friends, which is by no means good I know.So I have to correct it from now on.^^ Maybe it can solve the problem.
        In fact, some times when I counter some problem about my work, such as low efficience or feeling very tired, I sent SMS(short message) to my friend,besides you and JWY, who showed me the way to deal with it. I tried thier ideas and it really works. So friends are one of the most important thing in the world.^^ And I have to start to get my close friend now. 
    6月3日 12:58
5月27日

高校改名——之郁闷篇

 南京大学、东南大学合并——〉南京大学?东南大学?(一直以来,影响南京大学和

东南大学合并的最大障碍是合并后的命名问题,南大坚持取南京大学的“京” 字与东南

大学的“南”字,叫“南京大学”;而东大要求取其“东”字与南大的“南”字,叫东南

大学。双方长期无法达成一致,最终教育部出面,取东南大学的 “东”字与南京大学的

“京”字,叫东京大学!)

国人取英文名的趣闻汇总


     叫 michael的通常都很自负觉得自己受到众人欢迎,有点花痴

  叫 gary的通常都很弱智 常做白痴的事情

  叫 jessica的通常都很精明算的很精讲话永远都有官方说法

  叫 ruby 的也是蛮有自信的女强人多

  叫 vincent的通常官位都蛮大的也通常帅

  叫 peggy的没什 多半是名字里有个佩字

  叫 larry 的通常长的黑黑阴阴的

  叫jennifer的通常都很机车,嘴巴很坏

  叫 jack 的看起来都很老实?

  叫 dick 的很无聊和很好色

  叫 irene 的通常都是知性美女

  叫 claire 的甜姐儿多

  叫 robert的通常头都有点秃(要小心喔!)

  叫 kenny 的通常调皮捣蛋

  叫 catherine 的大肥人多

  叫 anita 的通常小鼻子小眼睛

  叫 terry 的通常有点自大

  叫 vivian的通常都很娇气,身材很好不过我都叫他们“肥肥安“

  叫 ivy 的通常很爱打人

  叫 rita 的精明的美女

  叫 jackson 的通常有点自以为是

  叫 eric 的通常是有自信的臭屁王

  叫 simon 的通常是有自傲的人

  叫 james 的通常都有点自恋

  叫 sam 的通常是快乐的要宝王

  叫 hank 的通常是温和的有点迟疑的

  叫 sarah 的通常是蛮傻瓜

  叫 kevin 的通常长的蛮帅

  叫 andy 的通常自认长的蛮帅

  叫 angel 的有点黏人的小女人

  叫 golden 的通常爱喝酒

  叫 jimmy 的通常是矮矮胖胖的

  叫 docata 的通常都很自恋很自大

  叫 tom 的通常很乡土

  叫 jason 的通常带有一点邪气

  叫 paul 的通常不是gay 就是很有钱

毕业三首


《散伙饭》

生活就是这样粗俗
去它的毕业聚餐
我非要叫它散伙饭

我以为
我会轻易的敲打出这几个字
刺痛的手指
却敲打出

破碎的声音

四年了
四年就象我
刮掉的胡子一样长
我们却还要
重拾起孤单


《畅畅》

请允许我这样叫你
我不是同性恋
但我的确喜欢上了你
那一夜
象风暴卷过树林
我们都被摧毁了
你端着被唾液污染的酒
在角落里泣不成声
你对我说
喜欢一个人你一定要告诉她
我很感动 非常的感动

你对另外的人说了第二遍
接着第三遍
..........
第十五遍
他们都以为疯了
被你追得团团转

深夜奇迹般的下起大雪
大地和我们
被温柔的抚摸着
三十四个生命也奇迹般的
抱作一团大哭一场
为了你那永远的
第十六遍


《辅导员》

你在骂我混蛋
我看出来了
即使你没有说出来
同时我也在骂你
我决不会吃亏

你之所以活着
靠的是我们
我们的重修费
你从来都不关心
我们是不是失恋了
父母可好
对学习为什么漠然
只知道喂饱你那只
跟摩托车油箱一样大的肚子
色咪咪的盯着女生看
然后对我们咆哮不止

小心了
也许我会打你一顿
在某个深夜

5月26日

新背景音乐

好像是香港话,听起来很funny吧^^